The Katbird Seat

The Catbird Seat is an enviable position. This old Southern idiom is used to describe someone "sitting pretty" or having the upper hand.

From this vantage point one is and/or feels in control. The chips are down and YOU have most of the chips.

When you find yourself in the Catbird Seat, the first thing it's important to do is actually RECOGNIZE that's where you are! You are in a position of advantage. Sometimes we get so mired in the negatives of our circumstances that we don't realize that we've been presented with wonderful opportunities.

When you've been fired or dumped, think of the new doors that have been opened for you. You're in a position to turn lemons into lemonade. If what you had is now gone, it has happened for a reason. At the very least you are in a position to make the one(s) who dumped you wish they hadn't. They were certainly taking your fabulosity for granted or maybe you weren't being your most fabulous self in the place you thought you wanted to be!

This is a time and place to reflect on what it is that you really want. Did you REALLY love your job or just need it? Were you TRULY happy in your relationship?

Start making some lists. What is it that you are really passionate about? Did you really like working in an office from 9-5? Or have you always dreamed of leading nature hikes? Do you really like teaching kindergarten or have you always wanted your own bookstore?

Think about your ideal mate, are they compassionate, driven, a homebody, athletic, a good cook, affectionate? YOU ARE IN THE CATBIRD Seat! You can decide what you don't want and more importantly what you DO WANT and GO FOR IT.

This is not however a place to gloat! "Ha-ha! I've got you now! This is usually the place in the cartoon where Sylvester the Cat gets WHACKED over the head or booted out of the house without his lovely Tweety-Bird meal.

Sit in the seat and take stock. Be reflective and then take action so that YOU, NOT others are in control of your happiness and destiny.

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